The third and final part of the arrow I’d like to discuss is the broadhead, otherwise known as the arrowhead or point of the arrow. Of course the purpose of the arrowhead is to penetrate the target and depending on the target, it will depend on what shape of arrowhead is used for the task. And so it is with our children, depending on their “SHAPE”, God will use each child in His way to further His kingdom.
The Bible likens the Christian life to a war against Satan and the evil in this world. Like an archer using the wrong arrow at the wrong time, we as parents with extensive prayer, Scripture study, seeking God’s wisdom and direction, need to help guide our children to His purposes, not ours.
Ephesians 6:11-12 Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
Some arrowheads are used to go deep within the target and can do massive damage. Other arrowheads are used for a precision attack. There are even some arrowheads called blunts that are not sharp at all and are used on birds and small game as not to destroy the flesh of the animal. There are many purposes for arrows, and each arrow is crafted by the Fletcher for a purpose. So regardless of your child’s shape, God has a mighty purpose for their life. It is up to us as parents to help each child learn their shape. As parents, it is our responsibility to know our children and to understand their shape, or who they are. If we do not know and understand our children then we are doing a disservice to them.
If each child is an arrow, what kind of arrowhead are they? I’m glad you asked. The following information is not original with my father in law, Pastor Larry Brodie, but it is information that he has shared many times over the years with many people and groups.
Take a look at each letter and make a list for each:
S = Spiritual gift(s))
Rom. 12:6 Having then gifts differing according to the grace that is given to us,
1Pe 4:10 As every man hath received the gift, even so minister the same one to another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God.
What is your spiritual gift(s)?
H = Heart beat for the Lord; passions for life and ministry
Mt 6:21 For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.
What is your heartbeat?
A = Ability (skills and ability, “God given” and “learned”)
Mt 25:15 And unto one he gave five talents, to another two, and to another one; to every man according to his several ability; and straightway took his journey.
What are your skills and abilities?
P = Personality traits
1Cor.12: 6 And there are diversities of operations, but it is the same God which worketh all in all. 14 For the body is not one member, but many. . . 18 But now hath God set the members every one of them in the body, as it hath pleased him.
What are your personality traits?
E = Experiences in life, especially painful ones
Rom. 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. 2 Cor. 1: 3-4 – Blessed [be] the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.
What are your significant experiences?
Why not take a few minutes and before considering your child(ren), go through and answer these questions for yourself. If you have older children, maybe use this as an opportunity for each child to reflect on themselves and make some notes. This would be a great discussion for the family.
As you will find through this exercise, each of our children, each of us are uniquely different. As parents, we must be careful not to press our children into a future path of our wants, desires and even our pride over what God has planned for them. I am reminded of the recent TV shows about child beauty pageants and how mothers live out vicariously through their daughters live, or how fathers try to live out their dreams through their sons on the sports teams. Of course as solid Christians we would say we would never do that, but do we? How often do we as parent “expect” our children to go to college or pressure our children down a particular career path or “ministry” path because of our own desires and even our own pride? Are we trying to launch an arrow in a direction and at a target for our own purposes and desires or are we willing to search out God’s desires, learn and understand our children’s shape (type of arrowhead) and encourage each child to pursue God’s will for their life? Dad, Mom, are we willing to give God complete control over our children’s lives or are we trying to deceive ourselves into believing we know what is best? Father knows best, the question is, are we willing to surrender the future of our children to our Heavenly Father?